Living For Us

I need to do a quick post in order to keep my focus on track. I have a few drafts but if there is one thing I am compelled to do, it is stop halfway. Knowing this fault, here I am to counterattack it and update at the same time. It’s a win-win, and there is no shortage of those if you work hard enough for them. Anyhow, lets get to it.

The way I see it, there are a few stages in life. Some are mandatory, and after that we are allowed to plateau. After you hit that plateau, there are a few more things that we can do. Admittedly, I have no experience in the upper tiers of this list, so bear with me as I go from what I have learned, not experienced.

The first stage I will wrap up quick, it is our developmental stage. This includes us as infants, toddlers, children and teenagers. It is in this period that we absorb absolutely everything that is available to us. We take it all in, and whether we want it to or not, it shapes us, it molds us. At this point we are a conglomeration of everything we see, hear and look up to. We take those people’s words and they become our own. We are set so firm in our mind of these things, we feel like we know it all already. Luckily, we are still very malleable, and this is when the next stage starts.

It is at this point where we either strengthen our beliefs or begin to question them. We have everything we believe we are and now are able to look at it more objectively. There are things shaping in our minds, whether it is what we want for our lives, who we want in our lives, our future, or what we are doing now, it all comes rushing towards us. This stage is tough, it can be despairing if we don’t know what we truly want. We can slog from job to job, class to class, but not quite put our finger on what it is we need. Through much guidance, soul searching and time, we should be able to progress past this and start working toward what we want, now becoming more comfortable with who we are, and what we believe we want.

That is where the next stage comes. At this point there is still room for change. It is possible to find that we were wrong, and this may have been what we wanted, but not what we truly needed. There are two ways this can go.

First is the plateau. If realizing this is wrong for you and you decide to go through with it, be it for money, to live up to another’s expectations, or any other reason than your personal fulfillment, you will most likely fall into a life of mediocrity. We get stuck in a routine, and we deal with it day to day. Not necessarily happy, not necessarily sad, but we deal with it. We aren’t fulfilled, but we are living, hopefully comfortably. There is a way to push past this and move higher, but you have to be willing to sacrifice what you have worked for so far.

The other way you can go is to push for what you feel is right for you. It may not always be a safe bet, say going from trying to become a doctor to push for a life coach, or an accountant to start a foundation, or a charity. Of course, unless your dream is to become a doctor or an accountant, then you are already on the path you are meant for. They say if you do what you love, the money will follow. This may not be true 100% of the time, but there are ways you can make it work. Provided that you can make your dreams come true and you find what you have been looking for then congratulations, you have found your career. The point in your life where your time runs short and you don’t mind. You are already spending your time doing what you love. The only downside is that you may spend too much time without realizing it, don’t forget those around you!

Again, these stages are very rudimentary, as no two people are the same. Not everyone has a dream job, but they still have dreams. Work for them. Whether the dream is being a husband/wife, a good father/mother, or being able to live a normal life, make it work. I beg of you, don’t give up on your dreams. Make your plan of action, follow it, live it. It doesn’t matter what other people think about it. No matter how you explain it, your passion is just that; pure, unadulterated passion.

Great people inspire others to be great. Scared people try to drag others down to their level.


3 thoughts on “Living For Us

  1. You’re writing settled in my mouth with an inexpressable food analogy, but, albeit loving almost every word, have one minor problem:

    I don’t believe in, within some arbitrary time, we become should become content and ‘plateau’. Why hold back when you have “achieved” your goal? Why not make another one? It’s not as if perfection is attainable, is it?

    –Mr. Rogers

    • “There is always more that you can do. That doesn’t always mean that there is more that you should do.” If you are not happy, then it is your choice to create more goals. Don’t limit yourself, but do not chase the impossible.

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